
Somehow laziness sneakily creeps in with the blessings of
Ramadan. With the first Roza starts
the vicious cycle of sleeping late, waking late,jumping out of
the bed right in time for zuhar prayer, rushing to wudu while motivating kids to join mama on prayer
mat, stuffing kids’ stomach with some quick meal while thinking that it looks
impossible to recite an entire juz before aftar, getting the lil one dressed,
tending to rooms, thanking Allah that I still have wudu for Asar,
letting kids watch TV a lil longer while grabbing Quran to recite ……looking at
the clock and here starts the kitchen time….aftar, dinner, Maghrib, dishwashing
and finally reclining at sofa to relax before Isha and Taraweeh, with a hot cup of tea in one hand and remote or mobile or Quran in other ........................….phew….things go on pretty well and almost
in same fashion till the end of holy month. Even kids let me recite in peace if
I let them watch some more TV. Though they are not supposed to watch it more than
a certain time but it becomes difficult to concentrate with all juggling going
all around you and it seems safer to let them watch a lil more so that I can
better concentrate.
As the days passed by I somehow realized my failure in getting my kids involved into
the spirit of holy month. Their eagerness for fasting made me forget the fact
that the excitement of our lil ones exhausts way before it gets mature. They
need constant reminders and continuous involvement, to keep the spirit alive throughout the month. Obviously, it’s impossible to put everything
aside for the sole purpose of concentrating over kids, yet it’s manageable. We
don’t need to sit separately for mom and child ‘Ramadan Special’ sessions;
everything can be done on the go.
Look at me who realized this at the time when first ashra is
about to be finished but we still got three blessed weeks awaiting us and I’m
all ready to embrace them with love and reverence and here is my action plan :
·
Tell a Tale: Nothing can
surpass the way in which a mom can tell stories knowing the taste and level of understanding of her each child. Lectures are
boring and It’s quite a torture for kids if we make them sit and listen quietly even if it’s for ten minutes, so turn all the information you have about Ramadan into tiny tales to
tell in whatever time whenever you get. It’s better to share both individually with young kids in a mom and
child interaction (when you are helping them getting dressed or when they are
nudging you while recitation or aftar preparation) as well as having family
talk at dinner or sahoor time. My kids love to hear about the rewards and
surprises waiting in Jannah, inshaAllah. They give full rein to their
imagination thinking about chocolate streams, candy palaces and unlimited hours
of fun and play. (May Allah bless all the kids with long, healthy and righteous
lives; enable them to be a pride for the parents and ummah here and hereafter,
ameen!)
·
Help them mach memorize
‘duas’ or ‘supplications’ for each ‘ashara’. I’m sure there are moms who will
be doing more than this but knowing my kids' pace I have decided to choose a target which they can happily hit :)
·
Let them help you prepare
the meals. There are loads of thing which they can easily do i.e.; peeling and
cutting vegetables with a blunt knife, mixing batters, arranging tables,
preparing drinks. Appreciate their
efforts, tell them how are they earning rewards from Allah and yes, they may be
messy, clumsy and slow but they are being a part of Ramadan instead of wasting
their time in other activities. My son particularly loves to chop tomatoes and
my daughter has taken the job of slicing potatoes for pakoras.
·
Every family member should
tell one good deed every day. I have specified dinner time for this and to keep
it simpler I’ve specified deeds as well; “controlling your anger in a debate
with siblings”. Which they have many and it’s a giant task for both of them to
hold their tongues :P “Listening to mama.” Well, they mostly listen to their
father, it’s mama who has to perform the yelling job even for a tiny task :O
and “ helping siblings.” However when one claims that he or she has helped , other
totally refuse the effort and another debate starts so I try to avoid this and
concentrate on first ones.
·
Encourage kids to supplicate
after prayers. Inspire them to ask Allah whatever they desire either it’s a toy
or a task.
· Ramadan is the month of Quran.
Motivate them to spend time
with Quran daily. You can decide how? I'm being easy in this too. I've asked my kids to rememorize all the surahs which they have forgotten. Though I so want them to understand the meanings as well but so far it's difficult to manage :(
·
Encourage kids to behave
nicely with each other. Don't forget to be in your best moods to set an example.
·
Keep remanding them that
Ramadan is a beloved guest which will leave us soon, so we should try to avail
as much of its barakah as we can.
·
It’s
good to be dressed nicely than usual.
·
Kids love cartoons and you
can find lots of Ramadan themed cartoons, rhymes and stories on the web.
·
Repetition is very
important. Keep asking questions from the stories you are telling them.
·
Prepare aftar boxes to
distribute in laborers. Kids love to sort the packed food into bags.
·
Don’t forget to buy presents
for your little jewels to celebrate their efforts at the end of Ramadan.
·
Motivate kids to buy small
gifts for their siblings too.
Remember, aim is not to burden the kids’ innocent minds with
rituals and chores but to light the incense of gratitude and graciousness which
slowly seeps into the hearts. The way we cherish this bliss today, will determine
the attitude of our kids, tomorrow.
May Allah enable us to cherish each and every moment of this
blessed month with our maximum faculties, ameen! Here are some links to Ramadan related activites. I really appreciate the efforts and creativity of all the wonderful people who has created them. May Allah accept our efforts and make us excel in His path, ameen!
Ramadan Puzzels and Word Games
Ramadan Facts
Creative Ramadan Activites
Ramadan Craft Ideas on Pinterest
Are your kids ready for Ramadan ?
Ramadan colouring pages
The Lantern 'a Ramadan story'